1. When a group of people laughs, each group member cannot help but make eye contact with the person to whom they feel closest
This trick can make you a clever observer of all kinds of relationships. It can tell you which team members are bonding with each other and learn to trust each other, just as easily as it can tell you if you might have a shot at landing a date with somebody. You will learn a lot about how you feel about other people, of course, just by paying attention to whom you make eye contact.
2. If somebody is doing you a favor, it actually makes them more like you
They unconsciously justify why they are willing to do so when you persuade someone to do you a favor. Typical justifications include things like "he's my friend," "I like him," and "he looks like the kind of person who's going to return the favor." Not only did you get help with something, but you also love the other party more than they did before.
3. Silence is receiving answers
You don't feel pressure to move the conversation forward when you ask someone a question and they're slow to answer. To your advantage, remaining silent plays. Moments of silence make people feel like talking, especially when the ball is in their court. This is a great tool for negotiating and other challenging conversations. Just make sure you're resisting the urge to continue the conversation until you get your answer.
4. Open hands and palms gain trust
There is an employee policy at LEGOLAND that says the employee "presents" their directions instead of "pointing" them whenever someone asks where something is. This is because the open-palmed gesture transmits confidence, making people more likely to agree with what you say and find you friendly and pleasant. Pointing is generally regarded as aggressive on the flip side
5. Nodding your head during a conversation or asking a question makes it more likely that the other person will agree with what you say
Try nodding your head as you speak the next time you need to win someone over to your way of thinking. In order to better understand what other people feel, people unconsciously mirror the body language of those around them. You convey that what you say is true and desirable when you nod your head as you speak, and people are more inclined to agree with you.
6. People better remember things unfinished
The natural tendency is called the Zeigarnik effect to remember unfinished things. Have you ever noticed how some TV commercials are cut off early? The company that pays for the commercial cuts it off so that it stays longer in your head than other commercials. The best way to forget things that are unfinished (commercials or songs) is to complete them in your head. Try to sing the last lines to yourself if a song gets stuck in your head. You're going to be amazed at how fast it's going away.
7. Chew gum to relax and concentrate
Chewing gum actually lowers your levels of cortical, the stress-induced hormone. But chewing gum not only reduces stress, but it also alerts you and improves the performance of your memory-oriented tasks. It does this by increasing your brain's blood flow and alerting your senses. When you experience a stressful situation while chewing gum, your body is less likely to enter the primary fight-or-flight mode (which leads to poor decisions and a lack of focus). You probably don't want to use this one while talking, but in preparation for a big presentation or challenging conversation, it's a great way to distress.
8. The feet of the people show their interest
Pay attention to your feet when talking to someone. If their feet are aimed at you, they will be interested and listen to what you say, but if their feet point away from you, they will most likely be disinterested and mentally checked out.
9. Work your name in the conversation to remember when you meet someone new
The goal here is to repeat their name three times in the first five minutes. It works extremely well, but the trick is to do it naturally. When you rattle off their name unnecessarily, it sounds foolish and awkward. Try to use phrases like “Hello ____,” “Nice to meet you _____,” and “Where are you from _____.”
10. Showing excitement makes others like you
This one goes back to the idea that we are mirroring people around us behavior. When you see someone, you show excitement, they naturally mirror that excitement back at you. Making a strong first impression and getting people to like you is an easy way.
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